Self-Care is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation. – Audre Lorde
We all know it’s good for us, but let’s face it, practicing self-care on a regular basis can be difficult. Especially when we live in a world that places our value on productivity – how many hours we work, or how much money we make. A world that encourages people pleasing, inadvertently forcing a disconnect between yourself and you.
While the rise in Girl Boss culture has shed light on how hard women work and how awesome we are, it has also romanticized working to the point of burn out, which is ultimately detrimental to our entire being (mind, body + soul). We know how important it is to nurture these parts of us, yet we often get caught up in the mindset that we need to “get sh*t done,” or, we feel guilty for taking time for ourselves.
Forget the guilt-trip. I’m here to remind you about the importance of cultivating a daily self-care routine that looks after your mind, body and soul. Because at the end of the day, not only do you deserve it – but it’s a necessity.
Self-Care And Consistency
According to research from Duke University, the best ways to build new habits are to start small, be consistent, and stick to a pace you can sustain. By regularly giving those parts of you a little bit of love and attention, you’ll begin to feel more connected to yourself, and the fog you once felt will lift.
Building a daily self-care routine that focuses on your overall well-being doesn’t have to be daunting. And there doesn’t have to be a set time and / or day when you do it.
I’ve created a step-by-step guide with a list of simple ways to help balance your mind, body and soul. Pick one or two from each category and slowly begin to incorporate them into your daily routine. Then, overtime, you’ll start to notice your entire being thanking you in gratitude.
Studies have shown that regularly practicing meditation positively impacts your emotional, mental and physical health. Taking a few moments every day to meditate can reduce stress, increase focus, regulate your mood, improve sleep, and help with self-compassion.
A few other ways to nourish your mind includes:
- 5-minute declutter. Spend a few moments cleaning up your space and getting rid of things that no longer serve you. You might be surprised at the peace that comes afterwards.
- Therapy. Self-care isn’t always facemasks and yoga – sometimes we need to address those root issues that prevent us from being our best selves. Not to mention, therapy often offers a non-judgmental space that may be difficult to find depending on your current surroundings.
- Finish that thing you’ve been procrastinating. It’s time to scratch off that annoying thing on your to-do list. Do it!
- Unplug for a little while. It’s amazing what putting your phone on airplane mode and doing something tactical with your hands can do for your mind. For example: You can try painting or planting.
- Journal. Whether it’s writing down what you’re grateful for that day, how you feel, or what you have going on that day – research shows that journaling regularly can help you improve your mood and better control your emotions.
It’s no secret that moving your body regularly in some way everyday does wonders for your overall well being. From strength training to yoga to dancing while you get ready in the morning, this looks different for everyone. And that’s okay. My motto? Do what works best for you.
Beyond moving your body, physical self-care can look like staying hydrated, meditating and booking that doctor’s appointment you’ve been putting off.
A few other ideas include:
- Breathing deeply more often. Deep breathing delivers oxygen to your muscles and brain, which increases circulation and leads to overall better health. Try these deep breathing exercises before you go to sleep tonight and drift off with ease.
- Stretch. Increased flexibility and mobility, improved posture, stress management, and a decreased chance of injury are among some of the major health benefits from incorporating gentle stretching into your daily routine.
- Self-awareness. Being physically self-aware can involve getting to know yourself intimately, or giving yourself a self-soothing massage. This is a lovely way to practice self-love and improve your confidence.
- Nourish your body. This doesn’t have to mean eating ‘healthy’ 24/7, but rather fueling your body in a way that makes you feel your best. Whether it’s drinking an extra glass of water or focusing on eating whole foods, making sure your body has the essential vitamins and nutrients can greatly impact your mind, body and soul.
For some, taking care of your soul can seem tricky. What speaks to your soul might not speak to others. This is where it becomes very important to listen to yourself and your needs. Tending to your soul first thing in the morning by doing something that is soul-soothing is a great way to start your day on a positive, mindful note.
This can look like:
- Do something inspiring. Spending a few moments reading or listening to a podcast can make all the difference when it comes to getting inspired and excited about something throughout the day.
- Check in with yourself. Spend 10 minutes writing about your thoughts, if something is bothering you, or what you’re feeling – without judgement.
- Spend time in nature. This can be hard, especially if you live in a city without regular access to transportation. If you can sit quietly in a park, breathe in some ocean air, or look lovingly at your houseplants, studies show that you can lower your stress hormone levels by being around nature.
- Positive affirmations. Studies show that when paired with goal-setting techniques, positive affirmations can make us more resilient to difficulties, reduce negative thoughts, and boost self-esteem.
How Do You Create Your Daily Self-Care Routine?
- It’s essential to make note of what is important to you, assess your needs, and think about what you truly want out of this routine.
- Make a list of self-care activities you enjoy doing. Refer back to some of the ideas we’ve categorized above. Remember to start small and be honest about what you’re willing to do, or not do.
- Look at your daily schedule and decide how much time you want to spend on your routine. Maybe you choose to set aside a few minutes both in the mornings and evenings, or maybe you choose to have a power hour first thing in the morning. Either way, it is up to you to hold yourself accountable.
- Consistency and patience are key. You might not vibe with your routine right away. Ease into it and try out a few different methods until it feels right. Soon enough you will reap the benefits of a sweet, loving self-care routine for your mind, body and soul!
I hope this post has helped you realize that you truly deserve to take time to tend to your needs every day. You are worthy of loving yourself – mind, body and soul.
– Take your time. Be good to yourself, okay?
Sending waves of love to you.
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